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I have a request. If your opinions and feelings are different from those of your friends, family, and neighbors please remember that they’re people just like you. I don’t care if they have a different political viewpoint; a different religion; different ethnic cultural background; a different parenting philosophy. Chances are that you still have something in common with those people.

People are not disposable. It’s so easy for us to click a button online and stop seeing them in our newsfeed; block someone; or “unfriend” them if we dislike them enough. It’s a lot harder in real life where you have to face consequences for your own contributions to the negativity in the relationship.

Treat people the way you’d like to be treated. It’s not a difficult concept. It costs NOTHING to be kind to other people. It costs nothing to cast a smile to someone who may be having a difficult day. It costs nothing to give an initial benefit of the doubt before turning your back.

I don’t really care if anyone has a differing opinion than I have. That’s great. Have it. It doesn’t hurt my feelings that there are ideas, thoughts, emotions, opinions, ideations, needs, wants, wonts, etc. that are different. Other points of view are important. There can even be valid points on both sides of the same argument. Not everything is a competition. Choosing sides doesn’t mean one side is good and one is evil. I believe that most people are inherently good, and that only a rare few are actually literally evil.

There ARE times when we have to take a stand and do what’s right, but destroying relationships isn’t the way to do it. Becoming the very thing you claim to hate the most isn’t the way to do it. There are ways to stand up for yourself and your causes that aren’t harmful to others and make a good example to those others and to your children. Be kind and respectful in how you express your difference in opinion to others, and show respect for others’ differences. You don’t have to feel it, but you still need to show it. You live in society, and you therefore agree to live by the rules of society.

Free speech? It doesn’t mean what you think it does. Just as you may be able to speak your mind, so do others… and when you speak your mind, how you speak your mind matters and that means that other people have the right to respond to you. You have the right to speak, but you also have an obligation to receive whatever consequence comes from it from friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances, and others in society even if what you say or do isn’t illegal. There are still some things that are socially wrong, morally and ethically wrong… and sometimes that might actually mean that you should consider that your side isn’t the just, right, good side. I know that I’m not always right. Hey, I can accept that. We do all make mistakes. Not all sides are always valid, even in my world view. Some points of view shouldn’t be tolerated and yet… and yet there’s still a way for those points of view to be rebuffed.

If you want to change the world you live in, then you must enact change in a way that is meaningful. Violence, whether physical or verbal, is never an appropriate way to enact positive change, and it’s never a path to peace. What leads to peace is a change in conversation and a willingness to change attitudes and behaviors. Social change leads to peace. That starts within each and every one of us. For me, that’s maintaining a conversation and connection with God.

You may still believe anything you choose, but be peaceful. Respectful. Use meaningful conversation. Behave in a way socially so that others trust you. These things are so important.

So, you don’t have to be “with” me on several issues. That’s okay. I’ll still love you. We’ll likely agree on many, many other things.


Mahatma Ghandi quote

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This is big, Loves. It really is. It’s ones of those Wake Up! moments that America needs for this election. This article is compelling in its discussion of why Trump is more than a dangerous choice… he’s no choice at all. It reminds us that were he to run for any other public office he would have been disqualified. So why in God’s name is he allowed to run for President? He disqualified himself early on and yet… and he disqualifies himself on a daily basis.

Republicans, I implore you: you still have a month left. Get your heads on straight and call emergency meetings. Choose a new candidate and get rid of this anti-American scum. Don’t hide behind legality. You’ve pulled illegal shit out of your hat and then legalized it by twisting and turning yourselves inside out when it comes to trying to convince the world Hillary Clinton is a criminal… and failed to the point that many in your own party now endorse her as Candidate and will vote for her.

If that’s not a wake-up call for you, I don’t know what should be. You’re beyond your tipping point. Choose someone new. It won’t be an embarrassment if you do. You’ll be considered heroes. Even if that candidate loses, he’ll likely tip the scales far closer to HRC than Trump will. And you’ll still be heroes for ridding the world of Trump AND that slimy worm Pence.

Choose a new Republican Candidate. It’s never too late. Lock this clown up. He’s the actual criminal.

Please. Read this from The Atlantic. This is your Wake Up! moment.



For the third time since The Atlantic’s founding, the editors endorse a candidate for president. The case for Hillary Clinton.

Source: ‘The Atlantic’ Editors Endorse Hillary Clinton for President – The Atlantic


Side note: I think it’s very, very telling that neither Johnson nor Stein are even mentioned in this endorsement article. They’re not even considered contenders. That’s a GOOD THING because their ideologies and their platforms are dangerous. Their histories are dangerous. They’re non-choices. They’re as slimy and sleazy as Pence.

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It’s been a few days since Brad and Angelina publicly announced not only their separation, but their divorce. I wasn’t going to write about it because, well, it felt icky. There have been so many hateful people out there already contributing their two cents, and although I guess I shouldn’t be shocked the strength of the spite does shock me. People are… I don’t know… gleeful about the news.

I’ve seen the comments that are along the lines of,

“Well, she cheated on her boyfriend with a cheater and married him, so what did she expect?”

That was actually the most kind comment, and the most restrained.

I think that Angelina expected she would have a partner in her life who, once he adopted their children and fathered a few more, would also be a competent co-parent with her. I think she thought she found her soulmate, at least for a while. I think Jennifer had thought the same thing.

Brad must be really convincing.

Whenever I hear about celebrity couples divorcing, I don’t take it as an opportunity for entertainment. I mean, I don’t celebrate or cheer or joke when a friend or family member gets divorced. I might feel relief if it’s someone I know, and it’s something they wanted. But celebrating and being vicious about it… that’s wrong. I’d only celebrate, so to speak, if the loved one told me they were planning a celebration. To be honest, even then it’s uncomfortable. I know there’s this thing called Divorce Parties and some people celebrate the anniversary of their divorce every year. Those, I find amusing, but they have to be done by the individual. It’s their right, not ours. It’s they who get to trash the former spouse.

It’s a marriage ending. It doesn’t mean that how it began was in the best way. It doesn’t mean that the marriage was unsuccessful. It doesn’t validate or invalidate how the relationship began. It’s not a spike in the eye, driven by the wronged person in the previous relationship. All it means is that a current marriage is ending, and when that happens it’s sad.

It’s sad to hear that something terrible occurred during a marriage that’s caused one of the partners to file for separation and divorce. It’s sad because these people originally came together with feelings of love, joy, happiness, and passion even if others disapproved. In this instance, children have been involved from the very start. This couple has a large family by choice, and every  member of this family has been affected by whatever has been occurring and will now be affected by the divorce. They’ve all been through a lot together; loss of family, illness, trauma, and also a lot of joy. Think about that. Think about how this couple loved their children so much that while they were happy enough to remain common law partners, they legally married because their children asked them to do it. Then to show how important it became to them they included the children in the ceremony and the creation of the bridal gown. This has been a family that loves each other. They’ve tried whatever it takes to stay together. Let’s assume that. Let’s assume it because things like separation and divorce don’t come out of nowhere.

That makes this sad. This family has to find a new way to move on, and find a new normal. [Edit: If TMZ can be believed, Angelina filed for divorce because of how Brad was parenting. She cited irreconcilable differences, and her attorney stated she did it for the health of the family. Sources who she’s close to say she did it because of anger issues, alcohol and weed misuse, and that she requested full physical custody of all six children with Brad getting visitation. She did this for safety reasons for her children. Not because he cheated or she cheated. For the children. That’s SAD and it’s upsetting. But here we have people making jokes and saying how it’s somehow payback to Angelina for how Jennifer was treated. Payback? There are children suffering. What kind of God would inflict payback on children of a couple whose relationship began the way it did? How callous is it that people are making light of the split? And how can these children find a new normal where they can’t live without their dad because he’s not living in a way where he’s got their best interests in mind. He’s got his own best interests in mind.]

How many other typical American families ie. non-famous have had to go through very similar situations? Who can relate to this? Have we really lowered ourselves into believing that crushing those who are already at their lowest is entertaining? That it’s funny? That it’s acceptable?

I apologize for the tone of this entry. I’m sorry if this sounds Mother Superior. It’s just… sad. Sad to me that the viciousness is so acceptable. I know that my opinion is just a drop in the bucket, and probably not a very popular one. That’s okay. I just felt like someone had to step in for the children. I felt like I was defending a loved one who has been in similar situations. And I hate it.

*Disclaimer: This is not to say that divorce can’t be appropriate for some couples. While sad, it can also be liberating, a relief, better for a family, and other positive words… but there’s a reason for an end. And the reasons are most often sad. I’m not against divorce.

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I really need to write an entry about managing my spoons per day, because at the moment I’m having trouble leaving myself enough to even get through until 4:00 p.m. during the school week.

I know that I need to recenter myself, refocus, and remember to simplify. I need to use the tools at my disposal.

I need to remind myself of how to do those things and what those tools are.

Before I can even write that blog… I need to take a big breath. In through the nose to the count of five, with the eyes closed. Pause. Out through the mouth until all of the air is gone. Pause. Breathe in through the nose to the count of five. Pause. Breathe out through the mouth until all of the air is gone. When you do this breathing exercise, think of nothing except the breathing. Focus and direct all efforts on your breathing. Do this five times without rushing the process. Keep your eyes closed, and don’t allow outside distractions, such as children or spouses but most especially your phone to interrupt.

This exercise takes as long as it takes. Do it twice if you need, but this exercise will force your brain, body, and anxiety to relax. Bringing in oxygen and forcing out thoughts does wonders.

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As it so happens, thanks to recent news, Jill Stein and that other guy, um, Gary Johnson are completely out of the question as well as long as Senator Clinton stays in the race.  As of today Gary Johnson has as chance of less than 0.1%. That’s not even a quarter of a percent of a chance of winning. Jill Stein isn’t even placing a fraction of a single digit percentage. They would both have to completely change their platforms to gain any sort of traction with anyone; and they would have to, well, not be Independent or Green Party.😉 Because with their individual platforms and the ideals of each party? I have to go with,

“Thank you, hell no.”


If you’ve followed my blog at all lately, you’ve probably noticed that I’m not a Trump supporter.😉 I’ve questioned why people support him. But then… I may have been a little insulting at times in my passion for my intense dislike of Trump regarding just how little I understand why reasonable people could even consider voting for Trump, but then again ‘m not running for office.

You’ve probably guessed by now if it weren’t obvious that the only option I find reasonable is Senator Clinton. She’s by far the safest choice.

Anything she does is under a microscope. Things from three decades ago are brought under scrutiny, twisted into half-truths and outright lies, and turned into spiteful memes. Present non-issues are “trumped up” if you will and blown into nontroversies until every single Trump Supporter and I Already Hate Hillary Clinton Frother laps it up with a big fat ladle.

They’ll pick apart her statements where she apologizes, even when she has no need to apologize. They’ll comment on how that’s a lie or only stated to gain voters or it’s rhetoric. That’s to be scrutinized crumb by crumb, ingredient by ingredient, until it’s lost all meaning. She can talk about her grandchild or daughter, and that has ulterior motives.

She coughs, and the world is on notice and thinks she’s not being transparent enough in her campaign or in regard to her health.

If only any month’s worth of comments Trump has made were scrutinized by the media so much as any single comment made or cough and antibiotic taken by Hillary Clinton at any given moment. Pneumonia is viewed as a death knell, apparently, and deceitful to boot. Who knew that allowing herself to become dehydrated and catching the common cold now and then wasn’t transparent, was deceitful, and she was on her deathbed. It apparently adds to the mountain of criminal activities she’s involved in while trying to destroy America in her conspiracy with President Obama.

Then this landed in my lap today from a friend on Facebook:

Pundits claim Clinton had a bad week. Next to Donald Trump’s seven days of gaffes and scandal, that is insane.

Source: An absurd week in America’s two-tier election –


Well, I look forward to the day that we can call it the Ovulation Office, thank you very much.

Now, I’m not giving Senator Clinton a free pass. I don’t believe she’s perfect. I haven’t always supported her. In fact, for the majority of my life, I’ve “hated” the Clintons. The thing is, I’ve grown up. I’ve done research in unbiased sources. Some of what I thought I knew, I was proven right except not in the way I thought and most of what I believed was disproven.

For instance, calling half of Trump Supporters “a basket of Deplorables.” I mean… Trump likely doesn’t even know what the word means but most of his fans do, and many of his supporters are educated and are on the fence on whether to support him or her.  I might agree with the sentiment that there are many, many deplorable Trump Supporters, and there’s very good reason. But the fact is that TRUMP is deplorable.

There are many HRC supporters who have been asking what the big deal is in her insulting Trump voters when Trump has been nothing but crude, rude, crass, vulgar, and outright insulting to every voter out there except for racist, sexist, homophobic, or xenophobic voters. In fact, the wording she used wasn’t crass or vulgar.

She was composed and used a relaxed, almost humorous tone of voice. She was speaking to the educated of America. She was speaking to those whom she knew were already on her side and didn’t need rhetoric or cajoling or politicking. She was in a safety zone.

That was exactly the problem.

Due to who she is, and what she is ie. a female AND a Clinton, she doesn’t have a safety zone.

She’s automatically being held under a much greater microscope and to a much higher standard than Trump or any other male. She’s always had to hold herself to a higher standard, and she always has just like any other woman in virtually every career that exists. She’s always carried herself with dignity and grace under pressure, and this was a slip. It wasn’t even as bad as that slip that Mitt Romney made when he denigrated all voters during his campaign for President.

During election seasons, when you’re running for any office but especially for President of the United States, you simply don’t insult the voters. You don’t insult the voters of your opponent because of the off chance you might have had that they would have become your voters at some point in the near or far future. If you call your opponent’s voters “deplorable” even if you specify “half of them” then those people are going to wonder if you really meant “all” and therefore…. you’ve personally insulted every single voter of the opponent. They now have a personal reason to hate you. They don’t simply hate Hillary for the lies spun from half truths by the GOP, or because they dislike that she’s female or a lawyer or a former first lady or a Democrat or “too liberal” even though she’s practically a Republican, or her wardrobe, or who she used to be friends with, who donates money to her campaign, who her husband used to be friends with, the colors lipstick she chooses, the sound of her voice, etc.

They now believe that even if they momentarily supported Trump, HRC finds them deplorable and will automatically assume them to be racist, sexist, homophobic, and xenophobic. You have to be careful with the voters. Most of them may be harsh to each other, even in their own circles and families, but they have very thin skins if they think the spotlight is on them. Anything that seems critical of anything they support and it’s a personal insult. And even if they do have these deplorable qualities, are they really irredeemable? Is that really a judgment on their character that any candidate should make? No, it’s not.

Even if they do have these deplorable qualities, who wants to say that those qualities are racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, or any sort of -ist or -phobic or a bigot? Not when they have justification after justification after justification for being anti-whatever it is.

Those things are very true of Donald Trump. And yes, those things are very, very true of many of his fans. But at the same time, there are people who are voting for him not because they support him but because they feel they can’t support any other candidate. Many people are single issue voters, or can’t get past a particular story they heard and don’t research well enough to find out if something was as true as they believe. Many people don’t care to know. Many people just won’t vote for The Woman or A Democrat.

I think she knows these things, and even if it’s more rhetoric, she nearly immediately apologized and expressed regret for her comments. She then dropped the other shoe, and that cracked me up.

Trump has tried that maybe once or twice, and it backfires. It’s always a crass and backhanded nonpology. Hillary Clinton backtracked quite eloquently, regretting that she generalized so grossly and shouldn’t have said “half.” She put the onus of lifting up individuals that are racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, Islamaphobic, etc. back onto TRUMP. Essentially she called him out for glorifying those traits in people who find those qualities admirable… even if they don’t like the words used to describe those qualities. She called Trump’s social media contributions to be offensive, hateful, and mean-spirited rhetoric. She did state that some of those people are irredeemable (which is true) and “Not America” which is also true of the IDEAL IDEA of America.

She also said that his supporters are people that are looking for change in any form because of economic anxiety and she urged her supporters to empathize with them.

Oh yeah, and the e-mails too. What started as a non-troversy to begin with, and is turning out to be one of the BEST things she ever did. After all of the investigations and committees and waste of tax dollars, because the Republicans have this need to discredit her and try to make her look foolish; after an FBI investigation found her to have done nothing criminal; it turns out that just as it was stated early on in the first week or two that her servers were FAR MORE SECURED than the government servers at that time. It also turns out that if her servers were being used today they’d be more secure than the currently updated servers the government uses. Because her servers were SEPARATE and therefore much, much harder to hack. That was the whole point of several government officials having their own servers.

So I found this below, which was written last week. And to think, I was almost THISCLOSE to thinking that the e-mail stuff actually was a bit more scandalous than I originally believed, and I’d have to eat a bit of crow. That I didn’t actually know what I was talking about way in the beginning.


The attention paid to it has far surpassed the boundaries of the facts.

Source: The Hillary Clinton email story is out of control – The Washington Post

You know, I just realized that I never once commented on the positive aspects of HRC’s campaign. I pulled a stunt that I HATE from certain Trump fans. My apologies. I clearly had some purging and pontificating to do! LOL

So, I’ll save the, “why I support HRC versus other candidates” post for another day. This one got out of control and too long.🙂 Ta, loves!

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I’d love to know why there are people behaving as if Hillary R. Clinton having pneumonia and leaving the 9/11 Memorial because of it is tantamount to her dying and being completely unfit to lead a country?

Do people know what bacterial pneumonia is? That’s what she has. Bacterial pneumonia often stems from extended colds, and she had what was clearly a cold in the past couple of weeks which likely developed into pneumonia.

Then you have to think,

“Especially if she came into contact with someone who was very sick and should’ve stayed home.”

I just shiver and feel squeamish at the thought of all the hands she has to shake every single day, and how many of them don’t wash their hands. You can’t be a germaphobe and run for President. Oh my gosh, can you imagine? Being a germaphobe and refusing to shake hands or touch babies? Or at least having an assistant behind you with antibacterial gel and wipes after every five people you touch? Or the assistant is there to slap your hand to keep you from touching your face; brushing your hair out of your eyes so that Other People’s Germs that are on your hands don’t make it to your mucus membranes.

Since she was prescribed antibiotics, that tells us that she has bacterial pneumonia which is the treatable one that clears up more quickly and easily (versus viral pneumonia).

Would people make such a huge deal about this if it were Donald Trump? George Bush (either of them when they were running)? Barack Obama, even if you hate his guts? Mitt Romney? John Kerry? Sarah Palin? Joe Biden? John McCain? Okay you got me on the last one because a big deal was and is made of his heart problems with good cause. But the others were all in good health, and whenever they have a cold or the flu we don’t hear about it. If they’ve had Shingles we don’t know. If they ever had pneumonia, not a peep.

Now, I wish I could say that Trump was kind to her when he sent her well wishes to get better for the campaign and debates. Except he turned it into an opportunity to trash the lack of transparency about her health, which he and his campaign keep hinting is poor and near death’s door. And he’s so transparent he just had a physical last week that he plans to release in comparison to her current health. He tried to show empathy, but even that was cagey… oh it’s so grueling on the campaign trail, it’s terrible, even though she does have a lighter schedule than I do…

So he thinks that these thinly veiled potshots will be amazing for his numbers. Get ready, because this is what he thinks will win him the election this time due to the in-the-moment-of-now-September snapshot:

Trump! Fully fit and healthy even with a grueling campaign schedule!

Clinton! Sick as a dog with OMG PNEUMONIA and can’t handle campaigning because she has GERMS! and needs REST! much less be President!

This isn’t as bad as when he tried to profit off of his “friend’s” death last week, that hideous, very horrible woman who wrote a book about him, but it’s still really shady and I suppose we shouldn’t expect any less from his campaign of dirty tricks.

This isn’t saying that HRC is pure as the driven snow. If she pulled the same trick, I’d be saying the same thing.

Pneumonia is a lung infection that can make you very sick. You may cough, run a fever, and have a hard time breathing. For most people, pneumonia can be treated at home. It often clears up in 2 to 3 weeks. For most people, pneumonia can be treated at home. It often clears up in 2 to 3 weeks.

Source: Pneumonia Symptoms, Causes, Treatments & More


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Ever since rescuing Leo, I’ve been reading up on how to try to train him out of being a canine garbage can. He eats anything and everything he can. A lot of it is just because it smells good, looks cool, is something new. A lot of it is out of revenge, curiosity, self-education, and pure spite. I think that maybe >0.2% is out of hunger.

The boy loves cut, freshly mowed grass. He loves grass to begin with but nothing beats grass that the lawn owner decided didn’t need to be caught in a basic lawnmower catchment bag while mowing. He becomes The Strongest Puppy in the World when on a walk and we come across freshly cut mounds of grass. He’ll grab such large chunks that he’ll gag and start to choke… and he doesn’t care. Not until he can’t breathe.

The goober.

He likes to go for the candy wrappings, tiny alcohol bottles, fast food wrappers, bird crap, cigarettes, rocks, shoes, dinner mints, beer bottles, dead animals, old cups, empty water bottles, and anything else people like to toss out of their cars onto my street and into my neighborhood. We clean this crap up every day for the sake of the dogs in the neighborhood and for fuck’s sake it keeps happening. My back can’t take it. These arthritic hips can’t take it.

People suck. Throw away your fucking garbage. Because since you won’t throw away your fucking garbage like a fucking human being? I have to read articles about learning to Heimlich and CPR my dog.

Training him to “leave it” works about 75% of the time. Training him to “drop it” works about 60/40% of the time when he’s picked something up during that failed 25%.

When he fails to “drop it” on command, and something other than a food item that won’t hurt him, he knows the drill is going to be:

  1. right hand over snout
  2. finger prying open lips
  3. lips pressing on his teeth so he opens his own mouth
  4. left hand pulling out whatever garbage or other item is in his mouth

Sometimes he actually can’t drop it. He panics. It’s stuck on the side of his cheek, or the roof of his mouth, or it’s too far back in his mouth. But he wants it out. Because if he obeys the “drop it” command, he just might get a small treat to replace it.

And sometimes, whatever is in his mouth is something that panics him because it doesn’t feel good and he shows me what he did and in his puppy way “asks” me to get it out for him. That definitely deserves a treat. No close calls so far, but this nearly 30-lb pup gets into EVERYTHING.

In fact, sometimes he’ll get into something and pick it up just so that we’ll tell him to “drop it” in the hopes of getting a treat and lots of praise for obeying.

The goober.

One of these days he’s going to need the Heimlich or CPR because of his little pranks.

And so, luckily I subscribed to this dog magazine’s free newsletter. There are occasionally some helpful articles, and they lead me to research the subject matter further.

And so. Dog owners. If you haven’t thought about learning the Heimlich and CPR on your dog before now, no matter old your dog is, it’s never too late to learn.



Some dogs—especially puppies—will chew on nearly anything in sight. Dog and cat owners may find their curious pet chewing on shoes, furniture, and even clothing. Although it can be hard to stop young pups and playful cats from chewing on objects other than toys, it is still possible for pets to choke on their toys, other objects, and even food. In addition to learning how to perform the Heimlich maneuver on a choking pet, it is equally important to learn how to perform cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) on a dog in case of an emergency.

Source: CPR and Heimlich Maneuver on Pets | Modern Dog magazine

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