… Recovering in a manner that is nothing short of a miracle. And SHE is the focus of this blog entry. Issy is important. Issy is special. Issy is the one that needs support, along with her father. Issy is the one that deserves prayers.
In a situation that could have already ended tragically, this sweet girl is showing strength and improvement day by day. Her father, Matt Stapleton, posted on the Team Issy Facebook page on Sunday with this amazing, incredible update:
…On Friday, after three days in the ICU, she was still unresponsive and had confirmed brain damage. After not seeing any changes in her condition, it was decided Friday evening to remove Isabelle from the ventilator. She responded by breathing on her own for the rest of the evening. The following morning, she awoke from her four day “coma-like” state asking questions, making requests, and quite incredibly, showing signs of the amazing young woman she is. For three days, she was hooked up to machines and showed very little progress. Fast forward 24 hours and we are out of the critical unit, completely independent, and beginning discussions about the extent of her brain damage. She has smiled and is now walking and talking. It is nothing short of a miracle. While she still has several obstacles to overcome, we are extremely hopeful with this unbelievable turn of events. … [go to FB to see the full update]
If you’ve watched the news or are in the Autism Community then you’re likely aware of who Issy Stapleton and her father are. Issy is a beautiful 14 year old autistic girl that was in a coma for several days when it was unclear if she would survive or come out of the coma. The coma is due to carbon monoxide poisoning . Issy has suffered brain damage due to the carbon monoxide poisoning which unfortunately was not an accident, but a murder-suicide attempt by her own mother. Issy still has a long road ahead of her, but luckily she has a loving father and family who are there with her every step of the way. A father who adores her. Lissy is resilient. She’s SMILING in spite of what she’s been through. She’s responsive. She has been able to make requests and show her personality when Friday, she was in an unresponsive coma. She’s out of the critical care unit as of Monday, September 9th 2013. This is joyous news and truly miraculous.
Lissy is alive and smiling. She’s alive and her family is happy that she’s alive.
WARNING: What I talk about next may be a trigger for some because it does involve discussing attempted child murder.
I also feel like I need to address the fact that the woman that gave birth to her recovered well enough from her own carbon monoxide poisoning to be in jail on charges of attempted murder, being held without bail. It pains me to even admit that I occasionally used to read her blog. I won’t share the link because I don’t believe she deserves any further attention, and there’s absolutely no excuse, explanation, understanding for what she did. There’s no one to blame except for her. Period, full stop, nothing anyone can say to get me to empathize with her. This is one topic that I AM closed minded about. If you believe differently, I honest to God don’t want to hear it.
There has been discussion around the internet about Safe Haven laws for situations such as Lissy’s except for the fact that only one of her parents to end both her daughter’s and her own life as a permanent solution to a temporary problem. She did this on her own… Matt Stapleton by all reports was surprised at his wife’s actions, concerned by a message she had left him that prompted him to go search for them. This is a woman whose husband is a school principal and knows the school system. Do I even need to point out the implications of putting a special needs autistic child into the state foster system at 14 years old?
When you have two parents in the home and one is feeling “battle fatigued” and symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder (oh, have I been there) then communication with your spouse and others in your support network is imperative. SHE HAD THAT. She didn’t call 911. She didn’t call a suicide hotline. She didn’t call her psychiatrist. And rather than viewing this as the system failing her with a temporary setback, she stewed on the those issues for a couple of days and she deliberately chose her actions. Actions which clearly stated,
“My way or no way at all.”
No, I can not identify with that at all. I can not empathize with that at all. Not when it comes to parenting, and not when it comes to parenting and advocating for an autistic child.
And so Issy deserves to be known for how amazing she is. Not for the burden her mother had to carry in her advocacy. Issy deserves to be known for her strength and her smiles and her love for her family. She deserves to have it known that her father has been fighting for her since he found her, that he’s been by her side praying and asking for prayers from everyone he knows and those he doesn’t. I wonder if he realizes just how many lives his daughter has touched.
I pray every day that she continues to improve and gain strength. I pray that whatever brain damage she has, it’s minimal. I pray that her community rallies around her and her father. Amen.
- Issy Stapleton and the Public Narrative (kimchilatkes.com)
- Autistic girl Issy Stapleton’s recovery ‘nothing short of a miracle,’ father says (mlive.com)
- Autistic Daughter’s ‘Miracle’ Recovery After Mom’s Alleged Murder Attempt (people.com)
- Father of Issy Stapleton asks for prayers, provides update on her condition in Facebook post (mlive.com)
- Statement from Issy Stapleton’s father (record-eagle.com)
- Mom Accused Of Trying To Kill Herself And Autistic Teen Daughter (worldduh.com)
- Test Your Carbon Monoxide Alarm (allstate.com)