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Happy Friday [I forgot where I got this image, sorry... I just googled for Lemonade Happy Friday, although I know it's not lemonade ;-)  ]

Happy Friday [I forgot where I got this image, sorry... I just googled for "Lemonade Happy Friday" although I know it's not lemonade ;-) ]

This morning, Sweet Girl had an apple for breakfast and while munching on that apple she sat on the couch with me and watched the Today Show with me… and she was just so happy.  Since she didn’t have to get up as the asscrack of dawn (aka 6:30) for extended school year bus, she got up at 7:30 with me.  Gracie had me all to herself and she took advantage of it, snuggled up next to me on the couch.

She talked my ear off.  Yes, yes she did.  Because there was no one except Daisy the cat to listen in and interrupt and tell her she was wrong, stupid, to stop talking, to interject with something or other behaving jealously…

She just had Mommy all to herself.

She talked mostly about getting her own android so that she can show me all of the talking she won’t do on it and all of the apps and texting she will do on it.

She wants my phone when I turn it in for an upgrade.

I had to explain that when I turn it in for an upgrade, it will be considered an Old Lady phone and so decrepit it will be useless.  I wait until my phones are useless, with the exception of my last phone when I gave it to my eldest so she could have one when she started middle school.

She tried her darnedest to convince me to get her a cell phone and why she deserves one over her little sister.  You’ll note by the length of the rest of our conversation that it’s about much, much more than the cell phone.  It’s about sisterly relationships.  She must have been ruminating on this for quite some time and trying to figure out how to introduce her problem with her little sister in a way that Mommy would finally Get It.

“But you will give me your phone.”

“No, honey, we talked about this.  A lot.  My phone will be broken when I upgrade.”

“I am old enough.  Anna is not old enough.  I am starting 6th grade.  Anna is not responsible.”

“I already let you use my phone when you want to at home.  What happens during the school day with cell phones?”

“Electronics are NOT ALLOWED.  I would get in trouble if I use electronics.  I would use a Chromebook.  I do not want to get in trouble.  Chromebooks are for school.”

“You’re right.”

“Yes, because it is against the rules to use your electronics in class.  The teacher will TAKE IT” quick swipe of her arms through the air “AWAY!!!”

“I think you’re right.”

“I know.  Do I get your phone when you get a new one?” with a squeal.

“Not yet.  It won’t happen for a while.”

She paused here, and her face darkened.

“What’s wrong, Sweet Girl?”

“Anna thinks she is the boss of me.  She thinks she can tell me what to do.  She thinks she knows everything.”

“Like what? Tell me.”

“She is always saying I will get hurt and, um, she yells and it hurts my ears.”

“Do you get hurt if you don’t listen to her?”

“I… sometimes.”

“Do you want to know a secret about Anna?”

PENSIVE FACE WITH FURROWED BROW… she’s preparing to hear something she doesn’t like.

“Your little sister loves you with her whole heart.  She loves you more than anyone else in the world.  That means that if she thinks you’re not safe she’s going to try to protect you.”

“Hmm.” nods

“And do you want to know why it seems like she thinks she knows more than you?”

“Hmm.” glances at me

“It’s because she remembers some things better than you do sometimes; she remembers how things work a little bit better or that doing something a certain way might get you hurt.  She doesn’t want that to happen.  Right?”

“Hmm.” scowls but nods

“What she wants is to take care of you.  She enjoys that.  She likes to know that you’re safe and happy.  She doesn’t think you’re a little baby or a little kid that she has to take care of.  She just wants to make sure that her big sister doesn’t get hurt and that she’s happy.  Does that make sense?”

“Hmm.”

“She doesn’t like to fight with you.  She hates to fight with you.  It hurts her feelings when you fight.”

“She thinks she is more grown up.  She is not more responsible, I am more responsible.  I am older.  I am going in a middle school.”

“You are definitely learning to be responsible.  You’ve been helping around the house a lot more lately.  You help me when we go shopping together.  You did a great job with the grocery list yesterday.”

“Yes, I did.”

“I think you’re both learning and growing up, and I think your little sister is trying to help you grow up so that you can do it together.”

“She is bossy.  She tells me what to do.”

“Well, do you think that maybe sometimes you tell her what to do too?”

PAUSE

“I think that she’s trying to show you how to do things safely, and you know how she likes things to be ‘just right’ but you know what else? She also wants to do things WITH you so that you’re not alone.”

“Yes.”

“And you know, she just thinks about things in a different way than you do.  Your little sister’s brain works a little differently than your does so she doesn’t always understand what you’re thinking.”

“Yes, yes.”

“It might sound bossy if she thinks that she has to talk more loudly so that you’ll pay attention.  Do you understand?”

“Hmm.”  BIG PAUSE “Juliana is bossy.”

“Well… um… but she’s your big sister and you’re supposed to think she’s bossy.  She’s a leader too.  And not for nothing, honey, but when Mommy and Daddy aren’t here, she’s the boss.”

“Mom, did you hide your Kindle?”

“No honey, it’s plugged in.  Did you want to read today?”

“I don’t know.”

 

 

Oh my gosh, I love this girl.  Dear God, I love my daughters.  Love, love, love.

 

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My Sweet Girl doesn’t like talking on the phone.  Clarifying:  the boring land line which all you can do with is talk on it; the android, which you could speak into in order to have conversations except for the fact that she hates doing that.  She doesn’t like pleasantries, conversations of a fun or serious nature, and doesn’t “get” what’s so great about the entire vocalizing conversations thing.

She much prefers my android and the fun things the phone actually does.  Youtube, Kindle books, Angry Birds.  She looks forward to having her own one day so that she can have Youtube, Kindle books, and Angry Birds and text all of the friends and family that she doesn’t want to speak with.

During the second PPT of the school year I asked her team to build into the social therapies “telephone speaking skills.”  At 11 years old she doesn’t know, or care to know, how to make a phone call on the house phone or the android (or even her dad’s basic phone).  She doesn’t know, or care to know, how to answer any of the phones.  She does know how to view a text I’ve received.  She knows how to open any app that interests her.  She knows how to open up Chrome and do an internet search for My Little Ponies and Frozen and Angel Cat Sugar.  She knows how to do all of these things on my Kindle too.

I wasn’t sure how the social therapy regarding the phone skills was working because she’s still resistant to using the phone, and although I encourage her to take calls that come in for her, I don’t force her to do more than listen to the other person and be polite.  I also don’t force her to make a phone call, although I will have her listen to me make a phone call and watch what I do.  Her response every time is,

“I do not like the phone. I do not… know.”

I get it.  I do.  She has nonverbal learning disorder, and she has some anxiety regarding phone usage because, I’m guessing, telephone conversations generally don’t have an easily identifiable script.  There isn’t an expected beginning, middle, or end.  People say and ask unexpected things and since it’s not face to face, responding more quickly (as opposed to taking some time to respond) feels more urgent and anxiety inducing.

It’s ok.  But it’s still important that she knows how to do these things.  I want her to know how in case she NEEDS to make a call or respond to a call.  Emergencies could happen.  She needs to know emergency contact numbers too, but that’s been a very long difficult lesson that worries her.  We usually have a medical alert bracelet for her with ICE info on it, but the last one broke so it’s time to get a new one.  It helped her feel secure.

So you can imagine my surprise when my youngest princess called me today (as requested) with a grocery list I asked her to help me with.  I asked her if the Sweet Girl had helped make the list, offered suggestions, or anything.  She said no and then forced her sister on the phone.

I fully expected Sweet Girl to drop the phone and walk away.  She didn’t.  She didn’t because with forceful determination, my youngest daughter told her to speak up and tell Mom what she wanted for groceries.  I said “Hello” and asked her what she’d like when I went shopping after work.

Suddenly…

“Ummm… yes.  Tomato.”

“Ok. Tomato… sauce?”

“Yes.  But red soup.  Gramma calls it red soup.  It is red.”

“Great idea!”

“Mmm hmmm, yes.  Sauce.  Your sauce is better.  You need enough.”

“I need enough cans to make sauce AND soup?”

“Yes, you do.”

“Good idea.  What’s next?”

“I need hummus chips.  They are healthy.  I do not like hummus.  Hummus chips are good.”

“Uh, yeah.”

“I need black bean chips.  I do not like black beans.  I do not like texture.  Black bean hummus chips are good.”

“On the list.  Thanks, honey.”

“Chocolate pretzels… uhhh… Special K.  They have the chocolate pretzels I like.”

“Ok, thank you.  Anything else?”

“Yes. Apples.  Strawberries are good.  I do not like bananas.  Anna and Daddy like bananas, I do not like them.  You should buy them.”

“Great, I almost forgot those on the list.”

“Mmm hmmm, yes.  My pretzels, the ones I like.”

“Mustard?”

“Yes, mustard pretzels.”

“Well, should we get veggies? I think those would be healthy.”

“Yes, get veggies.”

I fully expected her to remind me that she doesn’t eat veggies or meat, only fruit and carbs and cheese, so this surprised me.  :-)

“Oh! Well what veggies would you like?”

“Rhubarb.  I miss rhu…rhubarb.  I like cauliflower.  You have to get cheesy, um, the giant one.”

“Sure! We did run out of the cauliflower.”

“We ran out of rhubarb.  Last summer.”

“That too, I hope I can find it.”

“Hmmm, yes.  You should get my fruit bars.  They are frozen.  I like strawberry.  I like lemon.  I want coconut.”

“But the coconut has milk in it.”

“Yes, you say that.  I like strawberry.”

“Do you miss yogurt?”

“I like yogurt.  Get one with chocolate.”

“You’re such a big help on this list honey.”

“Yes.  I need allergy medicine.  And nut clust… clusters.  I runned out of Lactaid.  I need chocolate Chex.”

“We ran out of a lot.  Are you hungry?”

“I don’t know.”

“Do you think the list is done?”

…..

…..

“Hi Mommy, Gracie just dropped the phone.”

 

Oh! My! Gosh! That girl kept me on the phone for 15 minutes! I complimented her when I got home from grocery shopping, and made sure she saw the healthy foods she added to the list.  She may not eat the majority of the food she PUT on that list, but she created a grocery list! Over the phone! For 15 minutes!

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Barbie As Rapunzel DVD Cover

Barbie As Rapunzel DVD Cover

Yesterday before leaving for work I was watching a segment of the Today Show with two of my daughters: eldest and youngest.  There was a segment in which a Very Irate Lady was irate over the fact that Barbie, she who is a fashion designer Monday, veterinarian on Tuesday, and an astronaut on Wednesday, would dare attempt to take on the role of Girl Scout.  Because after all, with all of her curves and various careers including rock star and actress (who could forget Rapunzel or Swan Lake?) there’s no possible way that Barbie could ever be seen as a positive role model or leader to young girls anywhere.

Very Irate Lady was simply appalled at the idea that more people weren’t choking in sputtering rage over this issue.  The worst offense? That girls who are Girl Scouts and get this particular Barbie Scout can earn a Barbie “Be anything, Do everything” Participation Patch (click here to see), which is the first ever patch that comes from a corporate sponsor.  I guess the point there is, “How dare the suggestion that all a girl has to do is purchase a doll to earn a patch even cross anyone’s minds” is made, but let’s be honest.  Two of my daughters have been Girl Scouts and one is still a Scout actively.  Not all patches are earned with hard core activities and thought processes.  Not every single activity is heavily geared towards creating a leader.  Many activities are geared towards helping girls with self-esteem.  Many, many activities encourage team building skills.  Many activities encourage caring about others and each other with community service skills and activities.  And sometimes, some Girls (Scouts) just want to have fun.  But the fact is that the girls have to do more than simply purchase the doll to earn the patch.  If a girl is a Girl Scout an she buys that doll, and if that girl wants the participation patch then she has to do the activities laid out in the Participation Patch link I shared earlier in this paragraph.  Just like real Girl Scouts have to do in their troops to begin with.

People are going to have to suck it up, anyway.  It’s a three year contract and Girl Scouts is happy with it citing their feeling that Barbie has a wholesome image, that moms and daughters associate Barbie with outdoor activities like camping, giving back to the community, good and strong careers, being a leader, and that’s what being a Girl Scout is about.    And Mattel has said that it’s a good fit because Barbie has always been intended to spark girls’ imaginations.  After all… what’s her catch phase? “You can be anything!”

I suppose that part of the rub here is that they hope that Girl Scout membership will increase dramatically with the release of this Barbie.

Oh… I suppose you want to see the controversial Barbie doll.

Girl Scout Barbie: Found on Idle Hands Blogspot

Girl Scout Barbie: Found on Idle Hands Blogspot

 

My daughters watched the segment with rapt attention.  They didn’t say much while listening to Very Irate Lady or the calm opposing viewpoint speakers.  My eldest, who is going to be 14 years old in September, and my youngest, who is 9 1/2 years old, both exclaimed,

Youngest: “I love that Barbie! I want all three! They look fun! Gracie would love them too!”

Eldest: “Mom! I haven’t played with Barbies for a long time but I want those to collect them!

In Unison: “What a cool Barbie!”

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Today I am very grateful for:

 

  1. My daughters
  2. My husband
  3. My mom.  Totally my mom.
  4. My three dearest and best lifelong friends, who no matter how long it is in between talks or visits, it’s as if it was just a weekend ago; they’re the most forgiving, loving, generous people I’ve ever met
  5. The best office mate ever, who has become another one of my very best friends… and as important to me as my left leg :)
  6. My boss, who I also count as a dear friend and is one of the most inspiring and understanding people I’ve ever met, and I consider my life better for knowing her
  7. My sweet cats, who always know when I need a purry snuggle
  8. Great neighbors
  9. Box fans
  10. My daughters would want me to say “air conditioners” so: “Air Conditioners”
  11. Fresh mozzarella
  12. Avocados
  13. Iced coffee
  14. Iced tea (yes, they each have their own wonderful, separate, delicious qualities so they each deserve their own entry)
  15. Daily pain management
  16. Being able to order pretty, stylish plus sized tops and dresses on Amazon
  17. My Kindle… seriously, so many benefits I can’t even count
  18. Having a working car
  19. Having a cell phone
  20. Paper towels
  21. A working shower
  22. A working washer and dryer, especially since right now our dishwasher is dead, dead, dead
  23. A day off with my youngest girl even though I really, really need to be at work
  24. The fact that it’s beautiful and sunny today after the days of rain and terrible barometric pressure
  25. Did I say my Kindle?
  26. Common sense
  27. Kitty nail clippers
  28. Blue kitty kibble, especially since it’s helping Luna get healthier and healthier skin on her paws every day
  29. Having a good job
  30. Doctors that care about my health
  31. CHEESECAKE
  32. Volume control, especially the mute button, for the TV
  33. Chocolate
  34. Salted caramel, especially the salted caramel core from Ben & Jerry’s
  35. The camera in my phone and upload-ability to FB and when I remember, Instagram

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Keep Calm And Vaccinate

Keep Calm And Vaccinate

If you haven’t read this article yet, please please please read it.  Please pass it along.  Share it on Facebook.  Get this information out there.  If you have a friend who is a Vaccine Denier print this article out and give it to them.  If you’re a Vaccine Denier, please give this a chance and read it with an open mind.  Read it as if you have a child with Autism.

This article, right here in red. Click it.

It Took Studying 25,782,500 Kids To Begin To Undo The Damage Caused By 1 Doctor.

Read it as if your child has the Measles and you didn’t find out in time what it was, because doctors of our time don’t know the symptoms to look for in real life since the great majority don’t know what they’d actually be looking at.  They would be thinking it’s just a spotty rash, maybe sun spots from overheating.  Your child would be at risk for blindness and other serious complications.

Yes, Measles is serious.  It’s not a “mild childhood disease.”  This is a misguided belief, and needs to be reconsidered.  Measles isn’t mild.  Measles is more than just uncomfortable.  Measles kills children.  It causes severe complications in pregnancies that can cause serious lasting problems for the babies.

/But I can show you what I’m talking about.What I wonder is that in spite of knowing the very real dangers of the disease, which are far, far greater than the false belief that it causes or contributes to Autism Spectrum Disorder, is why people still insist that it’s “mild” in its symptoms.  People who let their children go to “measles parties” (and for that matter chicken pox parties) have children that didn’t and don’t appreciate contracting the disease their parent forced upon them.   Before the chicken pox vaccine, for instance, I have a relative who contracted it (naturally) and ended up with a pock on her eye.  She has a small hole in her eye because of it.  As I recall when she had the chicken pox, it was beyond terrible.  I remember having the chicken pox.  I felt like I was dying.  I had pocks in my throat, and I have scarring all over me including my face.

I’ve spoken with people who had the measles.  It was more than uncomfortable, and it wasn’t “mild” but nearly every instance had each of their parents making urgent calls to the pediatricians and trips to the ER.  Anecdotal evidence, I know, meaning nothing to those who wish to make a point that they “must” be an exception, but research backs it up.  Science, even.  Right now I’m talking children.  It’s no picnic for adults either.

But I can show you what I’m talking about.

From the World Health Organization:

Who is at risk?

Unvaccinated young children are at highest risk of measles and its complications, including death. Unvaccinated pregnant women are also at risk.
Any non-immune person (who has not been vaccinated or was vaccinated but did not develop immunity) can become infected.

People die of complications from Measles.  Those most susceptible aren’t just children 5 and under, but people OVER 20 years old.  Yes, healthy adults die from the Measles and complications from the Measles.  Many of the complications themselves don’t have treatments.  And what people don’t realize is that Measles can lead to babies and young children and elders having to suffer with multiple diseases in addition to the Measles, at the same time as the Measles, with long lasting consequences due to negligence.  Complications include:

  • Acute Encephalitis
  • Subacute Sclerosing Pan Encephalitis (SSPE)
  • Viral Pneumonia (Hecht’s GC) or Bronchial Pneumonia
  • Severe Diarrhea
  • Dehydration
  • Death
  • Premature birth
  • Miscarriage
  • Severe Conjunctivitis/Eye Infection that can result in Blindness – indicated by pus draining from the eyes
  • Mouth ulcers
  • High Fever
  • Scarring rashes
  • Severe Ear Infections that can result in Deafness
  • Bronchopneumonia
  • Croup aka Pertussis aka Whooping Cough which is a full on killer… and should have its own vaccine: this can cause its own complications, such as lifelong asthma and other lung problems; vomiting, choking, breathing problems, damage to vocal cords would be immediate complications that could have lasting effects
  • I just found this little gem:  http://www.docstoc.com/docs/69029290/Measles-Rubeola-(PowerPoint)

From the World Health Organization:

Key facts

Measles is one of the leading causes of death among young children even though a safe and cost-effective vaccine is available.
In 2012, there were 122,000 measles deaths globally – about 330 deaths every day or 14 deaths every hour.
Measles vaccination resulted in a 78% drop in measles deaths between 2000 and 2012 worldwide.
In 2012, about 84% of the world’s children received one dose of measles vaccine by their first birthday through routine health services – up from 72% in 2000.
Since 2000, more than 1 billion children in high risk countries were vaccinated against the disease through mass vaccination campaigns ― about 145 million of them in 2012.

 

Here’s the kicker.  There is no specific treatment that exists for the measles virus.  Antibiotics do nothing.  Antivirals do nothing.  That means you can’t just go to your doctor to get an antiviral or antibiotic for it once you contract it, period full stop.  Once your child gets it, they have it and have to suffer through it and you have to be responsible for the fact that you didn’t get your previously healthy child the vaccine that could have helped prevent it or at least reduced the severity of it.  And you’ve risked other children and people who are immune-compromised that are unable to get vaccinated for legitimate medical reasons, or because they’re too young to get it.  Please remember I’m not talking about babies, children, and adult that are not medically able to be vaccinated because they’re too young or they have an allergy to the ingredients (like egg whites) or some other medical reason.  I’m talking about people that are able to get the vaccine and choose not to because of paranoia and the lingering thought of “What if Wakefield was right? That poor man, people thinking he hoaxed the world, he was on to something!” No, no he wasn’t.  He was scum.  I’ve written about him too.

The best thing you can do for the most communicable diseases that can actually kill your children at worst and cause severe complications like blindness and preventable disabilities, such as Measles, Chicken Pox, Mumps, Rubella, Polio, at best is prevention.  Vaccination.

You can not prevent measles or other communicable diseases with diet, products from self-proclaimed health product companies, vitamin supplements, exercise, prayer, or wishful thinking.

The “poisons” you think that make up vaccines? Trace amounts.  Look it up.  I’ve even explained what it means before.  Do you know what trace amount means? It means so minute, so minuscule, such tiny, tiny, tiny amounts that it can’t even be measured and that even if you took that trace amount and multiplied it by a million you still couldn’t measure it and it wouldn’t be toxic.

Here’s a thought.

We avoid arsenic because it’s a poison, right? Remember the arsenic-in-apple-juice scare a couple of years back that’s coming around again? Well… arsenic is present in the apple itself.  That’s just nature.  You could eat a hundred apples in a week (I wouldn’t recommend it for your intestines sake) and it wouldn’t give you enough arsenic to kill you because it’s trace amounts.

Potatoes.  We all love potatoes, tomatoes, hot peppers, eggplants, paprika, and cayenne peppers.  We put those in many, many recipes around the globe, don’t we.  But we wouldn’t dream of eating Belladonna, or Nightshade.  Belladonna is a deadly poison.  And yet potatoes, tomatoes, hot peppers, eggplants, paprika, and cayenne peppers all have alkaloids in them, the same substance that affects nerve and joint function.  They don’t affect us because they don’t have nearly the amount of the toxin in them as Belladonna does, and we would have to eat large amounts at one time in order to have an adverse reaction unless we have a sensitivity or allergy in particular to the fruit or vegetable or to nightshades in general.

I’d like to introduce you to Dihydrogen Monoxide:

Dihydrogen monoxide:

Despite the danger, dihydrogen monoxide is often used:

*as an industrial solvent and coolant.
*in nuclear power plants.
*in the production of Styrofoam.
*as a fire retardant.
*in many forms of cruel animal research.
*in the distribution of pesticides. Even after washing, produce remains contaminated by this chemical.
*as an additive in certain “junk-foods” and other food products.

 

It’s water, people.  Simple water.

Some chemicals are actually good for you.  Aloe from aloe plants.  Lemon juice.  Orange juice.  We hear the word chemical and we panic.  It must mean that scientists mixed some naturally derived ingredients and made a chemical or that scientists figured out how to synthesize ingredients to create a medicine… a chemical.  And we all know that scientists and BIG PHARMA have it out for us.  They’re just OUT FOR THE MONEY.  They want to PUMP US FULL OF CHEMICALS FOR THE MONEY.  They couldn’t possibly want to, you know, keep children from dying from terrible diseases or cure people from stuff.

We’ve been trained to think that chemicals are bad by what I like to call the Big “Natural” Movement.  “Chemicals” must be evil.  This is when I like to remind people that blood is a chemical.  Beer.  Wine.   Marijuana grown in your backyard.  Tears.  Those are all chemicals.  Bile is a poison.  Poop is a poison.   All natural, yet.  Words are not always what they seem when there’s an agenda and talking points and rhetoric is involved.  So the fear based thinking regarding vaccines because of the CHEMICALS is thanks to the “All Natural” and “Clean Living” movements.  They’re manipulations in order to get you to buy what they want you to buy… but in order to do that they have to also demonize what they want you think of as the opposite of what they’re selling.

We’re told to get our vitamins, and certain compounds, to help make sure our health is at its peak.  Certain vitamins and minerals are illness fighters, cancer busters, immunity boosters.  The best way to get those healthful vitamins and minerals is through our natural diets in fruits, veggies, grains, and for those who eat meat, eggs, milk, for us to get out in the sunshine, etc.  However, so-called health companies have their agenda.  Money.  “Let’s sell you products that our very own scientists have figured out have The Very Best Combination of The Very Best Nutrients Ever and if you buy these products regardless of their cost you might get sick less often so that your disorder or disease no longer even exists AND you won’t even have to take medication any more”.

Even though the claims can never be backed by the FDA because these products are not medicinal health products.  They very well may help you, but they’re not health products.  Not even vitamins can make claims other than what strict FDA regulations say they can.  And what they never tell you is that they (vitamins AND self-proclaimed health food and health product companies) can still interact with necessary meds, the ones you don’t get to stop taking.  They mislead people into thinking they don’t need something vital and can end up killing someone.  It’s not because doctors aren’t involved… it’s because people are lazy and don’t open up communications.  They would rather take something that can’t ever be proven with facts and statistics scientifically for certain from a company that calls itself a health company than trust their own doctors.  People don’t even trust Registered Dietitians to help them because they’re part of the medical field.  They’d rather trust nutritionists and people without certification or backgrounds in scientific training.

Jarred vitamins are great as supplements, but no matter what the label tells you it’s not “natural” if it’s in pill form.  They’re a modern miracle, sure.  Difficult to really absorb, as they’re not very soluble.  Again though… people don’t think to tell their doctors what they’re taking or why they think they’re taking it. People think that they’re their own doctors, that they have to be, due to paranoia.  And the Big Natural Movement is fostering that feeling, that belief, that fear of doctors, in order to cash in.

The only way real way to get the best nutrition you can is with a diet full of fresh foods that can spoil, not sitting on your shelf in a wrapper.   Something wrapped or bottled and slapped with a label that says “diet” or “natural” or “all natural” is actually not health food.  It’s not prevention or medicine to take supplements or have a great diet.  Because again:  You can not prevent measles or other communicable diseases with diet, products from self-proclaimed health product companies, vitamin supplements, exercise, prayer, or wishful thinking.

We survive longer and are healthier than a century ago, than 75 years ago, because we have medicines.  Because we have vaccines.  Babies, children, adults are living longer because of the vaccines.  Booster shots are available for those who ask for them.  There are ways to get them inexpensively.

We survive longer because we have vitamin supplements and better variety of fresh foods available for everyone.  We survive longer because we have better knowledge of germs and cleanliness, sewer systems, food preparation safety.  We have more doctors, who have better medical equipment and more knowledge at their disposal than ever before.  We live longer because of all of these things put together.  We have the power to eradicate terrible diseases like Measles, Chicken Pox (varicella), Polio, Rubella.

So that said.  Let’s move on.  I spent enough time on that thought.

People think that every ingredient that’s in vaccines is poison because it’s a “chemical” at this point, including the vaccine itself ie. the dead virus or germ that is being vaccinated against.  People don’t understand how vaccines actually work, how the body works.  How things weren’t perfect with our health 50 years ago, 75 years ago, 100+ years ago… thousands of years ago.  People stopped eating bark off of trees for a reason.

People died from urinary tract infections, for crying out loud.  People still die from pneumonia.  And children ARE dying from Measles.  And people afraid to get the vaccines but then are afraid to let even other family members who have been vaccinated around their children for fear of their child contracting these terrible diseases? That’s your better sense taking over.  Listen to it.

This is on a good-to-know-basis for those still worried about that dangerous, dangerous Thimerosal that isn’t actually Mercury but people think is pure Mercury (I’ve blogged about this before too in more detail):  Thimerosal  is no longer used in childrens’ shots except in some types of flu shots.  You can ask for a flu shot that doesn’t have thimerosal in it.  Let the doctors know ahead of time so that they can order it for you.

If you care for my opinion on Autism outside of this particular post, just put Autism in my search bar or check recent posts.

I’ve exhausted myself with this post.  I’m sure I’ve offended some people.  It’s ok.  Facts sometimes do that.

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geneThose of you who follow my blog and those of you who know me know that my Sweet Girl, my middle daughter, is Autistic.  You know that the sun rises and sets around her as it does with my other daughters.  I am not just her advocate, I am also her ally. I’ve written about raising her up to be proud of every part of herself. I’ve written about teaching her to be a self-advocate. I’ve written about experiences in public, and how various individuals have responded to her various behaviors and comments we’ve received. I’ve written about and shared news articles about Autistic teens and young adults who have had interactions with law enforcement that had no training or care about being in the presence of disabled individuals and the abuse and deaths that have occurred as a result. I’ve written about the high rates of abuse and bullying that occur among Autistic individuals and other individuals with disabilities, how it’s much higher among neuro-diverse individuals than among non-disabled and non-autistic peers. I’ve written about my disdain for Autism Speaks.

Now, I’m writing about Google and its collaboration with the project Aut10K created by Autism Speaks.  What is it, you ask?

Here.

Nature World News: Introducing The World’s Largest Autism Genome Database (click)

 

Autism Speaks announced a collaboration with data supergiant Google Cloud Platforms to make the world’s largest database of genomic sequence information on individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), creating an invaluable autism research tool that can be used anywhere in the world.

Book Wright, the co-founder of Autism Speaks, announced Tuesday that the organization would be collaborating with Google to launch the Autism Speaks Ten Thousand Genomes Program (AUT10K) – a project that intends to make the world’s largest private collection of DNA samples open to the public.

We already know through reputable research for the past couple of decades that Autism Spectrum Disorders are genetically based.  Yes, it’s suspected that in some instances environmental factors can trigger or exacerbate symptoms but there’s really very little doubt among legitimate scientists that ASD is genetic, is typically hereditary, blah blah blah.  Why this seems to be news to the world, I don’t know.  Why it’s news to Autism Speaks, I really don’t know.  Except instead of Autism Speaks embracing this news in order to embrace the community and start including Autistic individuals in making decisions about themselves, in making proclamations about themselves, AUT10K is happening.

Autism Speaks is still trying to portray themselves as Autism Advocates, as allies, but this project is going to do far more harm than good.  It’s because the goal of Autism Speaks is to continue to portray autism as a tragedy, something separate from the individual, something to be cured, and as an illness.  They continue to portray the belief that autism should be cured, eliminated, reduced because autistic individuals are too “expensive” in their medical care costs and education costs.  Michael Rosanoff, associate director of public health for Autism Speaks has been quoted as saying about a cost study,

“This study shows us what we’ve all known but never had the data to support — that autism is alarmingly expensive.”

They also have an info-graphic about it.I didn’t doctor this, I just took it directly from their site (I think it was Facebook).  It’s used to illustrate the idea that Autistic individuals are a burden on society, a COST to society.  Do we understand the implications of that language?  Let’s reduce the cost, is the implication.  How do we reduce the cost? Cure, eradicate, eliminate.  Sounds an awful lot like encouraging society to endorse eugenics.  COST TO SOCIETY via Autism SpeaksEugenics is scary, people.  It’s something many have applied to their belief systems in order to explain their despicable attitudes towards individuals that have various disabilities.  Click on this link to see:  Bad Cripple: A Reply to “What Should We Do About Severely Impaired Babies”.  People really believe this stuff.

Autism Speaks launched the AUT10K project in collaboration with the Hospital for Sick Children’s Centre for Applied Genomics in Toronto.  This is a fact.  They view Autistic children, teens, and adults as sick individuals that need to be cured.  This is a repeated theme in their info-graphics and on their web site.

So, you want to know how this project will be harmful?  Check out these reliable links.  They’re not propaganda sites, they’re Autism Advocacy pages.  They’re pages run by Autistic individuals.  THEY are the people that you want to listen to.

Autism Women’s Advocacy: Dear Google, Do No Harm.

Autistic Self Advocacy Network: Community Concerns Regarding the Google-Autism Speaks Ten Thousand Genomes Program (AUT10K)

Google – Stop supporting Autism Speaks and AUT10K (with petition at Change.org)

As always, I could go on but today I’m not really feeling well.  I’m home sick and having trouble concentrating.

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Source:  Goista.com

Turks and Caicos Islands, Mommy’s Vacation

It’s official; I have a high school student, a brand new middle schooler, and a fourth grader.  Wow.  I’m so proud of all of them.  Today is the first day of their summer vacation, and as it happens it’s the first day of summer.  Cool.

I’m having my first real weekend day of having nothing to do or worry about.  My Darling Girl is playing on my cell phone, trying to find as many promo clips as possible for “How To Train Your Dragon 2.”  The Princess is upstairs relaxing, playing Mario something or other on her DS.  Sweet Girl is at a birthday party for a good friend at school, her first one since kindergarten.

It’s quiet, as it should be on this beautifully sunny and not-too-hot day.

I might even get a nap later.

HA HA HA HA HA!

No, really, I’m aiming for a nap.  In spite of the current seeming calm, I was rudely awakened too early this morning.  Sweet Girl was upset about something her Daddy said about her skirt and washing it.  Chocolate chip pancakes fixed all that, along with a suggestion to, you know, wear a clean skirt.

A nap will help me process just how old my girls are getting.  Yeah, that’s it.

So the girls’ vacation starts today, but mine doesn’t start until August.  I can barely stand it.  I need that beach.  If I fall asleep on it, see… my children won’t wake me up while I’m on it.  I’m going on a Momcation with a few friends in a month and a half.  It’s our 40th Birthday Year celebration.  More on that later.  I’m hoping if I get a nap later, my Momcation will be in my dreams.

Of course I’d love to take the girls somewhere this summer too.  The Husband wants to go to the Cape.  I want somewhere less… boring for the girls.  This may take some research, especially since we have to keep the drive manageable.  It may end up being near the holidays, though, to give us more time to save some money.  I’d love to bring the girls back to New Hampshire after it snows and Christmas lights are up everywhere.  Maybe it’s not too late to find a place to go camping for the weekend and we can get a decent tent with a decent air mattress.  Or rent a cabin, ha ha.  That would be awesome for “camping.”  They could use a tent, and I’ll use a cabin that has electricity.

Eh, or we do the Cape.  They’ve got beaches and hotel rooms there.

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